This is not a column you want your children to read unless you are prepared to have a very important and personal discussion. Then again, maybe that’s why I think it’s important to write this column.
Recent events underscore the need to talk to our kids (again) about the sanctity of their own bodies.
In Los Angeles County, California an elementary school teacher named Mark Berndt was arrested after a clerk reported developing disturbing photographs for the 61 year old man. The clerk showed police photos of blindfolded young school children with their mouths covered with tape and some of the children had “large, live Madagascar-type cockroaches on their faces and mouths,” according to the Sheriff’s Department. Other pictures showed
young girls being offered blue plastic spoons containing what DNA tests later indicated was Berndt’s semen. Berndt had been a third grade teacher at the Miramonte Elementary School for 30 years. Police recovered some 600 lewd photos from his home. Some of the children in the photos have not yet been identified.
In New York, two simultaneous in-school sex abuse allegations hit the news. In Brooklyn, the FBI arrested 41 year old public school staffer, Taleek Brooks, and charged him with internet trading of pictures and video of himself engaged in sex acts with children. The victims were from the elementary school where he worked and officials there said Brooks often took children on after school activities, almost always with a camera in hand. His home computer had over 1,000 child pornography files.
Gregory Atkins, a 56 year old teacher’s aide in Manhattan was also recently arrested on charges that he convinced a young boy to strip off his clothes in a bathroom stall and then attempted to fondle him, offering him money. Atkins had been accused of inappropriate actions with another boy, at another school, in 2006 and was recommended for disciplinary action. None was ever taken.
From California to New York and probably every state in between, teacher initiated sexual abuse of children happens too often.
None of the suspects I mentioned here have been proven guilty. But the stories do act as a wake-up call, don’t they? I mean, we send our children to school thinking they are safe there as we go about our daily routines. But, the sad fact is they may not be.
I digest a lot of information about crime every day and it seems lately there has been a cluster of teacher/student abuse news. And, it’s not only male teachers your children need to watch out for.
On the web site Crime.about.com there is a fascinating report about women who have been charged with sex-based offenses against young kids and teens ranging from inappropriate behavior like sex-ting to all the way to rape. As you scroll through the random 165 case studies there are inescapable facts. In 97% of the cases the women charged were teachers, their confession/conviction rate is extremely high and many of them have had to register as sex offenders. Nearly every state is represented on this web site’s list of female predators. By my count, most of the student victims were male but many were female and the youngest reported child was just nine years old.
For those teachers reading this and getting riled up, please, don’t write me to say I’m unfairly attacking your profession. I am not. There is a simple fact we all need to accept: Pedophiles go to where children congregate and the law requires children go to school. What more convenient hunting ground? Yes, the overwhelming majority of our nation’s educators are hardworking, dedicated professionals who would never harm a student. But there is no profession that is untouched by predators.
I could only find one major study that dealt with the sexual misconduct of teachers toward students. It was conducted back in 2004 by Professor Charol Shakeshaft of Virginia and was commissioned by the U.S. Departments of Education and Justice. Four thousand students were questioned and some 7 percent reported they had experienced sexually inappropriate behavior by school teachers or officials. Apply that to the nation’s general population of young students and, according to Professor Shakeshaft, that “translates into about 3.5 million kids.”
That makes me shudder. As any expert in the field will tell you sex crimes are highly under-reported so the number of incidents was probably higher in 2004 and likely considerably higher today.
Let’s not add to the hysteria seen outside the Miramonte Elementary School in California where worried parents held raucous sign-waving protests after Berndt (and later a second male teacher) were arrested for preying on their children. But let’s do use these recent events to sit down with our children and have age-appropriate discussions about who, where and when a grown up is allowed to see or touch intimate parts of their bodies.
The pediatrician? Yes, if mom or dad is close by. Your school teacher, sports coach or next door neighbor?No! But more than that. Children have to feel comfortable enough taking with you about this now so that if and when the horrible happens they will know they can come and tell you right away.











{ 11 comments… read them below or add one }
ABQ Journal Reader Mike Kruchoski writes:
“Not to dispute the seriousness of sexual abuse of children, regardless the numbers. Do be careful, however, about accepting experts’ opinions about the true numbers of sex crimes, based on under-reporting.
I occasionally check the methodology (e.g., was a random sample used?), the phrasing of questions, and definitions used in some of these studies when the results seem unbelievable. Sadly, I’ve found that some researchers are shoddy, even ideologically biased. So, while under-reporting is certain, the possibility of extrapolating from inflated numbers is something to be wary about.
I know a little about statistics and surveys: I like to say I come from a “two statistician household” — my wife and me.”
Mr. Kruchoski,
I learned many years ago to be careful of statistics and studies and “scientific” findings. But I was struck by the fact that there was only ONE study ever done on this… and that nationwide it could be extrapolated that more than 3 million children proclaimed themselves to have been at risk. I really thought it bore a mention.
No, we cannot determine if the number of school staff/student incidents will rise in the future based on the belief that the crime is underreported – Nor can we really know that the extrapolation of 3 million + children is a correct figure. But I think you would agree that squabbling over the EXACT figure is beside the point of this column. Point being: Sex abuse of children is occurring in schools and one case is one too many. ~ DD
Terri Miller, President of S.E.S.A.M.E. writes:
“I just read your article: Talk to your kids about sex abuse, and I am so glad you are putting that message out there. It takes vigilant parenting to help keep our kids safe, but as you say, “when the horrible happens” as it is sure to happen, children need to know they will be believed and that telling is going to make the horrible stop.
Good secret (a surprise party), Bad secret (bad touching accompanied by caveats such as: “this is our special friendship and others won’t understand”), Don’t Tell = Tell, No one will believe you=Tell anyway. We have to explicitly define dangerous physical and verbal signs, otherwise children won’t tell.
There are efforts in the process as we speak that I want to make you aware of.
Stop Educator Sexual Abuse, Misconduct and Exploitation known as S.E.S.A.M.E., Inc. Please join our Facebook page/group. Our Page is open to community and our Group is private for survivors, advocates and experts. We are the only organization providing advocacy and support to victims/survivors and professionals involved specifically in educator sexual abuse/misconduct cases past or present.
Additionally, SESAME has been assisting two champion legislators in Pennsylvania on bills to prohibit “Passing the Trash” and would also set up a national database of teacher offenders. Pennsylvania Senator Anthony Williams wrote and sponsors The S.E.S.A.M.E. Act (SB1381) and U.S. Congressman Mike Fitzpatrick introduced The Jeremy Bell Act last December. We are hoping to find more sponsors for this act named after Jeremy Bell, a little boy who was murdered in the course of being sexually assault by his elementary school principal. The principal had a 30 year teaching career with known allegations of sexual offense in multiple jurisdictions. The Jeremy Bell Act will mandate states to enact legislation to prohibit ” Passing the Trash” and hold those accountable for doing so with severe penalties.
The JBA is in it’s infancy stage, so please help us rear it up to be a strong vibrant law enabling our nation’s children to learn and grow in an environment conducive to learning and free from child molesters.”
Sincerely,
Terri L. Miller
President
S.E.S.A.M.E., Inc.
http://www.sesamenet.org
NOTE TO READERS:
So many of you write me about specific columns wanting to learn more about the topics I choose and how you can get involved.
Seems to me Ms. Miller’s web site (above) is the perfect place to visit to get started if you, too, want to do something about educator/student abuse.
Again, I have teachers in my family, count many teachers among my dear friends and on the whole teachers are a wonderfully dedicated group of people. However, as we all know – predators come in all shapes, sizes, races and occupations.
Take good care of your kids. ~ DD
Facebook Friend Mike Morrisey writes:
“Diane, Not just the predators, but the outright adult bullies of kids who are teachers in schools.
A vice principal attempted to force my son to sign a confession for a vandalism some other kids did. He was near where it happened but was going from one class to another. His whereabouts were known by two teachers during the time in question, but they were being bullied by this guy too.
The vice principal locked my son in a room that used to be a closet. Stood over him with his arms crossed and fists clenched and told him, “you’re not leaving until the confession is written and signed.” Did the same to two other kids.
All three patents pulled their kids out of the school that day. I told the principal that it was too bad he hadn’t tried that with me, even when I was 14. By then I had 4 years of Taekwondo training in adult classes from a instructor who was a North Korean defector who had worked for the CIA, and the highest ranking master in the US. His practices were brutal. If he had threatened me when I was 14 only one person would have walked out of that room.
I’m with you all the way on this one. Can’t stand anyone who is predatory to kids.”
Mike:
Wow – you know locking ANYONE (Let alone a child) in a room is considered to be kidnapping, under the law. You could have requested that Principal be criminally charged. since I was school aged I’ve had a soft spot for those who buck unjust authority. Bless you and your son! ~ DD
Facebook Friend Melissa Unger writes:
“Whoa…Why are we picking on teachers today? Most teachers would never ever harm a child in any way…Let’s educate the public on the characteristics or attributes of a typical predator instead of singling out a profession made up of people who have dedicated their lives to educating America’s youth.”
No! No one is picking on teachers, Melissa – as clearly stated in the column and by me in these comments. But we also shouldn’t forget that no occupation is exempt. I’m all for “educating the public” about predators – THAT was the thrust of this column. Thanks for writing. ~ DD
Facebook Friend Shana Rowan writes:
(not just teachers can be predators…)
“So can policemen, doctors, coaches, and parents. And unfortunately, background checks won’t reveal anyone who has simply never been caught. This is why we must focus on the reality behind sex crimes, not just what we’ve been led to believe.”
Facebook Friend P Wayne Smith writes:
“While some teachers may be predators, others may get roped in with students who know exactly what they are doing! I went to a high school where a female student went out one weekend with a male coach! They got caught but he was terminated, while she returned to school after a short suspension.”
Mr. Smith –
Realize, please, that the law states no minor can give informed consent for sexual activity with a minor. Not a 12 year old, not a 15 year old. State to state the age differs – some set it at under 18, others set it a 17 or 16. In my book no high school student should be dating an adult coach. ~ DD