My Stalker, My Warning

by Diane Dimond on October 19, 2015

My Stalker Says He's Capable of Murder

My Stalker Says He’s Capable of Murder

                     “I am a potential mass shooter….”

That chilling line was written to me by my on-again, off-again cyber-stalker.

He took exception to my opinion in June 2014, that the killer who murdered six and wounded 13 near the campus of University of California, Santa Barbara was, “A young man of privileged means… possessed by a demented, murderous and conniving mind.” My stalker declared I was guilty of violating the Americans With Disabilities Act — by maligning anyone with a mental disorder —  and began a letter writing campaign to smear my name and terminate this column.

Boasting about his imaginary importance in media circles he sent rambling, angry letters to a majority of my past and current employers (and some friends) telling them I was a bully and demanding they join in

Six Died During the Santa Barbara County Ramage

Victims of the 2014 Santa Barbara Co. Rampage

denouncing me. He called me vile names, threatened my safety and said it in language that caused me to think he had a mental problem. He soon confirmed that.

          “Diane, I am mentally ill. I am physically disabled as well. My life is a living hell…I am a prime candidate for committing a mass gun shooting…and with the PTSD I am easily triggered.”

After the rash of mass shootings America had endured I reported this disturbing language to an LAPD police detective I know. She forwarded it to a special cyber-crimes unit. I soon learned they couldn’t do much. Neither could the LA District Attorney’s office or the FBI cyber-crime unit.

As a retired Secret Service friend of mine said, “There’s just not enough manpower for agents to confront every nut on the internet.”

Now, more than a year later – and with almost 50 school shootings so far this year — my stalker’s words came back to me.

Even though law enforcement can’t seem to locate my stalker (He frequently moves) I know he is simmering out there somewhere and I’m fearful he is a walking time bomb. I’ve heard about another dozen of his victims.

Stalkers Often Think They Are Smarter Than Others

Stalkers Often Think They Are Smarter Than Everyone Else

Three years ago the stalker picked an on-line chat room fight with an Emmy nominated television producer who is also a film professor at an Ohio university. He is still waging a campaign to discredit the producer and demanding he be fired for “bullying the mentally disabled,” – the stalker’s reference to himself. He’s branded the producer a “serial killer” and “child abuser” on-line. He even went so far as to contact the Emmy committee and spew such threats that during an award ceremony extra security was hired to intercept him if he appeared. The producer got a Civil Stalking Protection Order but it has done little to slow the madness.

A woman who ran a non-profit group helping the homeless in California told me the stalker sent her e-mails out of the blue declaring that she was ignorant about homelessness and bragged about his expert documentary on the issue. Once she responded to him he launched a massive and prolonged internet smear that ultimately caused her funding to dry up. She was forced to shutter the organization and leave the state.

In November 2013, the stalker threatened two female hostel workers in Los Angeles after they kicked him out for using foul language in the lobby. Within hours he asked for $10,000 for – you guessed it – their discrimination against the disabled.

Then he turned his wrath on a retired police Lieutenant the hostel hired to resolve the problem. Besides producing a barrage of vicious e-mail and internet threats against the officer the stalker also attacked at the man’s wife. She was a top executive at a cosmetics firm and the stalker publicly accused her of deliberately trying to disfigure customers. This self-described mentally ill man also posted photos and the address of the couple’s California home and their new out-of-state retirement home.

From Keyboard to Killing ? Is That Possible?

From Keyboard to Killing Fields? Is That Possible?

Then there was the successful television writer the stalker was once introduced to in California. He grandly declared on-line that she was his “writing partner” and he professed his love. When she protested he turned on the woman, reportedly following her on dates, spitting on her companion and finally posting warnings that, “Wouldn’t it be terrible if on your way to work your breaks fail on the 405” highway?

I could relate other horror stories from this cyber-stalker’s victims from across the country and into Canada but you get my drift. This is a dangerous man who has left a trail of police reports in Ohio, West Virginia, California, Indiana, Oregon and Washington State. His alleged crimes include aggravated assaults, public drunkenness, violent domestic abuse, communications harassment, menacing and possession of drug paraphernalia. Yet he is allowed to remain free to wage war against accomplished people he obviously wishes he could emulate.

As the Lieutenant told me from his retirement home in Oregon the other day, “This is not the crime of the century but sitting around waiting for this guy to hurt someone again is not the right thing to do.”  And he ominously added, “He’s giving all the same indications of past mass shooters.”

Why don’t we have a system to intervene with people like this? How many lives are they allowed to disrupt or destroy before the law can step in? I, for one, don’t want to pick up a paper and read about another massacre with this stalker’s name on it. He has given us ample warning.



Diane Dimond October 19, 2015 at 8:07 am

ABQ Journal Reader Mary Anne Edwards writes:

Your story today boggles my mind. What’s the deal? The authorities know who he is and what he is doing ( worse behavior than John Hinkley ) yet no action? Why don’t all the people he has libeled and threatened sue him? Isn’t stalking a crime?
We definitely need mental health laws that protect the mentally ill from themselves and others.
Hope you address what can be done to A…Help the victims B…get help to the perpetrator.
As always, enjoy your column here in Santa Fe!! Keep up your good work and thoughtful journalism.”
Mary Ann Edwards

Diane Dimond October 19, 2015 at 8:12 am

ABQ Journal Reader Steve Vaughn writes:

“You wrote a great, and kinda scary, article about that cyberstalker. It’s for-real psychopathy –

Robert Hare has studied it extensively up in British Columbia, and a lot of criminologists have looked at psychopathy and its larger category, antisocial personality disorder. Most people think of psychopaths like Freddy Kruger. They’re not. Only the cartoon versions make it to the public consciousness.

The real ones are sometimes like Bernie Madoff or Doug Vaughan (no relation) who filched people’s life savings without a care. Or Enron’s young toughs who robbed thousands.

What makes it scary is that these psychopaths all have the unflinching
opinion that they’re absolutely right. They are born-again, into the
tribe-of-one. Ruben Bolling wrote a good cartoon about corporate mentality, the tribe-of-one, and success through resolute narcissism. Scary.

They don’t have the still small voice that warns us all that no matter how certain we might be, we still could be full of it. Maybe Mom was right. That insight keeps us out of trouble.

They don’t have consciences. Kent Kiehl at the Mind Institute at UNM is very interested in the matter of the brain biology of psychopathy. He’s been looking for the wiring mistakes that seem to plague about 1% of the population, that make them appear to have no conscience whatsoever. When those 1% get on top, all hell breaks loose.

Only the losers wind up in trouble, or in prison. The high-functioning ones do disquietingly well. See “Snakes in Suits” by Robert Hare. Now THAT’s a scary story for Hallowe’en.

Not everyone makes it to the Joe Stalin level, or Nikolai Yezhov, or the thugs in the Nazi party. Mussolini – a picture-perfect narcissist, but I don’t know enough about him to tell if he was a psychopath. I’ll bet he was.

I think that the measure of a civilization is how well it protects its
vulnerable members from predation. We don’t. We consider it part of the ruff tuff “real world,” where the meek and shy are suckers. Our society glorifies narcissism, which is the first-cousin to antisocial personality disorder. We allow our famous narcissists to tweet about their greatness, worshipfully adored by their minions. We – our society – makes excuses.

It’s a paradox – we allow women to be players, as long as they’re not too girly. Hillary Clinton is hated for being robotic – but imagine if she was shy, quiet or meek? Never would have made it anywhere NEAR the ladder, or the glass ceiling. Ruff and tuff is where it’s at. Take a look at the ‘action heroines’ in the movies and cartoons – either be a faux man, or flutter about men like moths. Think of Alison Bechdel’s rule on cinema. “The Bechdel test, also known as the Bechdel-Wallace test, asks whether a work of fiction features at least two women who talk to each other about something other than a man.” Wikipedia

PennState University had a procurement system for bringing inner-city boys to the campus, allegedly to broaden their horizons, but instead to be raped. We have allowed the institution to exist, because after all, they are a division 1A football member with a long tradition. That is a moral decision, as is tolerance of waterboarding. When it comes to morality, we prefer not to get into the uncomfortable stuff.

That’s my 2¢ worth. Keep up the good work.

Steve Vaughn [MD, PhD etc.]
Albuquerque NM

Holly Briley October 19, 2015 at 8:52 pm

For anyone who has ever had an cyberstalker, myself included, know the horror and havoc they can cause in your life.. on and offline.
Often times they don’t just stop with you and take their activities offline targeting your family, friends, jobs…they stop at nothing.
You go to law enforcement and they offer the tired “stay offline” or “just ignore it” advise – which does not work. The law is woefully behind times and haven’t begun to catch up or attempt to catch up to technology.
It’s a nightmare that never ends. Ive been in mine nearly 4 years now. There is no end in sight. The damage done to my name is beyond repair.

Claire Cappetta October 19, 2015 at 11:34 pm

I had a stalker and he destroyed everything I held dear, my home, my children, thousands lost. I now try to help people who are being stalked. In the UK, a Harassment Law was brought in, in 1996/97 which my stalker was arrested under, thankfully laws have slowly tightened there and a new law against Stalking and Cyberstalking was brought in, but it’s incredibly difficult to prosecute still. For cyber stalking it means everything has to be captured and saved.

Sadly, the US is so far behind and it desperately needs to be tightened. We are developing boxes to be given to people who need them in the UK, and in 2016, I will be visiting the Police Metropolitan areas, showing them how to use them and give training, so they can help when they are out helping people who have a stalker. Personally, I hate the word victim as I fought hard when my stalker attacked me, held me hostage, I am still fighting to this day, therefore I am not a victim.
Stalkers totally de-humanise your life, take every bit of privacy away.

I am hoping that we can change the laws in the UK, so that the US is shamed into following suit. I will soon leaving the US to take this up in the UK, but hope one day I will be back. I would to show the US any progress we make in Europe and bring changes here.

Claire Cappetta
Author of Stalking Liberty and advocate for raising awareness against Stalking

Diane Dimond October 20, 2015 at 12:26 am

Facebook Friend Ralph Logan writes:

“Ralph V. Logan He’s a coward who hide in his dark shadows of personal failures. He will be found and face what’s coming to him.”

Diane Dimond October 20, 2015 at 12:27 am

Facebook Friend Bonnie Stevens writes:

“There are dozens of us who’ve been harassed by this menace. Most of us haven’t had the guts to come out publicly. Thank you for doing this. Law enforcement can’t do much about it. So we just watch and wait.”

Diane Dimond October 20, 2015 at 12:28 am

Facebook Friend Andrea Saint James writes:

“Damn. This is an outrage. There should be some suitable punishment for slander and threats. I can’t believe there is no law he has broken. Be careful.”

Diane Dimond October 20, 2015 at 12:29 am

Facebook Friend Georgia Butler McCallister writes:

“This is very scary , hope they find him soon !”

Diane Dimond October 20, 2015 at 12:30 am

Facebook Friend Alex Loya writes:

“Praying for your continued safety.
There need to be laws to allow intervention with potentially dangerous mentally ill people.”

Diane Dimond October 20, 2015 at 12:31 am

Facebook Friend Neely Taylor writes:

“Diane, please be careful! If you don’t have a taser, get one!! I’m not sure how you feel about a concealed weapon, but I’m from Texas and we don’t play here! I’m saying prayers for you and your family. Always be on guard! It’s sickening to me that you have to live with this…”

Diane Dimond October 20, 2015 at 1:10 am

Twitter Pal Chrisahull writes:

“@DiDimond It’s very troubling that more cannot be done in these cases,hope he is caught, please be safe Diane!”

Anonymous Victim October 21, 2015 at 11:59 am

I don’t understand how someone who makes the claim to a journalist “I am a potential mass gun shooter” isn’t getting a 72 psychiatric hold. That is not a normal thing to say. I believe in people’s rights and to not punish someone before they commit a crime, but this guy is asking for help, warning people about what he intends to do.

Diane Dimond October 31, 2015 at 9:12 am

Facebook Friend Lenore Riegel writes:

“We have to do better to protect our loved ones from these evil and insane fixations. Better laws? Better law enforcement – BOTH!!”

Diane Dimond October 31, 2015 at 9:12 am

Facebook Friend Sylvia Kurtz writes:

“In two words: scary, infuriating. Scary for those harassed by this maniac, infuriating for those of us who believe law enforcement should protect the victims more aggressively.”

Diane Dimond October 31, 2015 at 9:16 am

I think law enforcement wants to protect the populace against aggression – but cyber-stalking training is not available everywhere. It’s extremely expensive, distracts from traditional policing and the cyber-stalker/harassers aren’t stupid. They move around (changing IP addresses), know how to cover their tracks – and – one law enforcement identifies the exact computer from which offending messages have been sent, then they have to prove which PERSON was behind the keyboard at the time the messages were sent. Bottom line: LE tactics need to keep pace with today’s new breed of cyber criminals. ~ DD

Anonymous April 24, 2016 at 8:06 pm

It is important to clarify that he has alleged crimes, but he also has been convicted of many crimes. He is not just a nut on the Internet; (I realize you understand this, but I feel this is a distinction that merits additional clarification) he actually follows through on some of these threats. Saying more would reveal my identity, but I have had very scary run-ins with him, in person, when he was stalking me. I second the commentator that suggested a Taser, and, sadly, continued vigilance. His attention rapidly swings from one person to the next, all of whom he feels have abused and wronged him, and he can justify anything at any moment, because he always feels he is the victim. There is no limit to how abusive or violent he can be.

Just Another Victim May 14, 2016 at 3:33 pm

I agree–he is not just another nut on the internet. My experiences are miniscule in comparison with many of the others. If my experiences with him, as small as they might be, had such a profound effect on me, I can only imagine the horror the others have felt in their encounters with him. I am, like many of the others are, ever-vigilant against any possible attacks which may come at any time. He always instigates these flame wars, verbally attacking innocent people like a dragon with violent threats, and then claims to be the victim. Then he threatens some more, claiming others attacked him first. He may go behind peoples’ backs, contacting their employers and colleagues. He will try to destroy whatever project you are involved in, I believe, because he is so jealous that you are doing it. He’s not just sick–he is evil.

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